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When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Your mother criticized your parenting skills. Your friend gossiped about you. Your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance.
But when you don’t practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was YOU………

As difficult as it seems, you can be sure of this: At the core of the heart, you have the power to move beyond the old issues that are still hindering your freedom. The hardest things—the ones that push you up against your limits—are the very things you need to address to make a quantum leap into a fresh inner and outer life.
In the long run, it’s not a question of whether they deserve to be forgiven. You’re not forgiving them for their sake. You’re doing it for yourself. For your own health and well-being, forgiveness is simply the most energy-efficient option. It frees you from the incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. Don’t let these people live rent free in your head. If they hurt you before, why let them keep doing it year after year in your mind? It’s not worth it but it takes heart effort to stop it. You can muster that heart power to forgive them as a way of looking out for yourself. It’s one thing you can be totally selfish about.
Take it slowly. The deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. We think we’re protecting ourselves by not forgiving. Acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. Forgiveness means that you’ve decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.
The incoherence that results from holding on to resentments and unforgiving attitudes keeps you from being aligned with your true self. It can block you from your next level of quality life experience. Metaphorically, it’s the curtain standing between the room you’re living in now and a new room, much larger and full of beautiful objects. The act of forgiveness removes the curtain. Clearing up your old accounts can free up so much energy that you jump right into a whole new house. Forgiving releases you from the punishment of a self-made prison where you are both the inmate and the jailer.
Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time—just like it does for you and me.

  "Like a plant needs water children need encouragement." Encouragement literally means to ‘give heart’. If you are unsure how to encourage your child then think back to how you encouraged him when he was trying to walk. In all likelihood you encouraged and urged your child so hard that you nearly pulled him up with your will. You didn’t criticize him because he fell over. You urged him to get up and have another try and you communicated through your behavior that you knew that he could do it.

 My hands are small. Please don’t expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short. Please slow down so that I can keep up with you. .

2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have. Please let me explore safely. Don’t restrict me unnecessarily.

3. Housework will always be there. I’m only little for such a short time. Please take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly.

4. My feelings are tender. Please be sensitive to my needs. Don’t nag me all day long. (You wouldn’t want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.) Treat me as you would like to be treated.

5. I am a special gift from God. Please treasure me, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner.

6. I need your encouragement and your praise to grow. Please go easy on the criticism. Remember, you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.

7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday, I’ll be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.

8. Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure up to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me with my brother or my sister.

9. Please don’t be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need vacations from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides, it’s a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.

10. Please take me to worship regularly, setting a good example for me to follow.

 

My friend told me this story in Africa and thought to share it.

A farmer had a tree which grew beautiful mangoes.  Everyone in the village knew about the tree, and the mangoes.  One day the farmer was inspecting his trees, and saw the loveliest mango he had ever seen.  He picked it, and showed to his family.  they were amazed by the beautiful mango.  So were all his friends, who  heard about the mango, and came to look. .He!He!He! .

The farmer knew this was a special mango, but it wasn’t until his wide said, “That’s a mango fit for a king,”  that he knew what to do.  He was a poor farmer.  He had no money, but he could take this mango and offer it to the king.

 He wrapped the mango in a special cloth, and walked all the way to the palace.  At first the guards laughed at him, but he unwrapped the mango and showed it to them.  They were so amazed they called their commander, and the commander took the farmer to see the king.

 The farmer unwrapped the mango once more.   The king was amazed by the mango, but pleased by the generosity of the farmer.  He asked the farmer what he would like in return but the farmer refused.  He wanted no reward, and no gift.  “All I wanted was to see the joy on your face when you saw the perfect mango,”  he said.  Then he quietly slipped away, and went home.

 The king was sad when he discovered that the farmer had gone. He ordered one of the guards to take his finest horse to the farmer to show his gratitude.

 Soon everyone knew the king had given his finest horse in return for a mango.  A rich merchant in a nearby town heard of this.  He saddled his fastest horse and rode quickly to the palace.  There he offered the king his horse to replace the one which had been given to the merchant.  The king thanked him graciously, and waited for the merchant to leave.  But he did not.

 “Ah,” said the king, “You want something in return,” and he went into the palace.  The merchant could hardly wait.  It might be jewels, fine clothes, perhaps even a big house.  The king returned with a small casket.  He opened it, and inside lay a mango.  “This is my greatest treasure.  It was given to me by a generous man who wanted nothing in return.”

 The merchant was angry.  Outside the palace he took the mango and threw it away.  The king saw this and called his guards.  “Take the merchant, and make sure he never comes back to my palace.”  He does not understand that to give freely without expecting anything in return is the most precious thing anyone can do.”

Why does it seem so complex or hard to comprehend when it comes to giving to other people, but it a lot of times seems so easy to accept?Giving will help you to get more blessed not only that but you’ll be blessing someone else. That’s a great feeling. It will also make you feel better inside.

We all take certain things for granted, the sunrise, electricity and sometimes even life. But every now and then a senseless tragedy reminds us how very precious life is.
Someone smiled at me today,
And I started smiling too.Do you ever wonder what people are feeling when they smile? Do
they smile because they’re happy or do they smile because they want people to believe
they’re happy? Maybe they smile because they want you to smile and be happy.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an
honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a
life around.A smile can touch a person’s life in ways you can never imagine. It’s infectious
and can cause a chain reaction. It can be memorable to someone you pass on the street or the
mall or driving… and it only takes a split second to smile and forget, yet… to someone
that needed it, it can last a lifetime. Maybe I should smile more often.
A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life’s worthwhile.
A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who receive without making poorer
those who give.  It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.  None
is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot
be made rich by it.  Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is
something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.  Some people are too tired
to give you a smile.  Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no
more to give.
Smile don’t frown Look up don’t look down Believe in yourself Don’t let yourself go Just be
who you are And let your live flow.
As stressful as life can be , people ask why do i always smile, well because I can make you
smile back and that’s what makes life so much better.Just Smile!
Nothing Can Go wrong,
Evreyone speeks the language of emotion.Here’s a last thing no one can deny:
We are all just apprentices,
No one knows what it feels like
To Live The Best Life…
So you better give it a try
Before time catches you up and makes you die!
"Together we make the world brighter… .
Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day.