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I am on air.I am blogging.And I pray you are all well my friends He!He!He!.

I heard a child asking this "What is sex"?And my friends who are confident parents felt tongue-tied and awkward when it came to sex.They wanted to avoid this question.But I think this subject shouldn’t be avoided.It needs to be answered. By answering children’s questions as they arise,parents can foster healthy feelings about sex.children are human beings and therefore sexual beings.It’s hard for parents to acknowledge this,just as it’s hard for children to think of their parents as sexually active.But note, even infants have curiosity about their own bodies,which is healthy and normal.

Start with a toddlers they will often touch themselves when they are naked,such as while being diapered or in the  bathtub.At this stage of development,they have no modesty.Its their parent’s reaction which will tell them whether their actions are acceptable.Toddlers  should not be scolded or made to feel ashamed of being interested in their bodies.

What do you tell a very young child who asks where babies come from(is it the birds and the bees story?)He!He!He!—- depending on the child’s age,you can say that the baby grows from an egg in the mommy’s womb,pointing to your stomach,and comes out of a special place,called the vagina.There is no need to explain the act of lovemaking because very young children will not understand the concept.

However-Age-appropriate books on the subject are also helpful.Answer your child’s question in a straightforward manner and you will probably find that he/she is satisfied with a little information at a time.

This is also the right age to begin talking about good and bad touch  —:ie —-children 3 to 6 years of age like to play "doctors" don’t overreact by being heavy-handed scolding is NOT the way to deal with the situation.more then often, the presence of a parents is enough to interrupt the play.direct your child’s attention to another  activity without making a lot of fuss.later, sit down with your child for a talk.Explain that although you understand  His/her  interest in his/her friend’s body,he/she is getting to be a big  boy/girl and people are generally expected to keep their bodies covered in public.This way you have set limits without having to make the child feel guilty.Tell the child that his/her body is her own and he/she  has the right to privacy.No one should touch him/her like it or want it.Tell him/her to tell you if anyone ever touches him/her in a way that feels strange or bad,he/she should tell that person to stop it and  tell you about it.You have to explain that you want to know about anything that makes him/her feel bad or uncomfortable.Actually,never! learning about sex should not occur in one all-or-nothing session.It should be more of an unfolding process,one in which the child learns,over the time,what he/she needs to know.My friend, questions should be answered as they arise so that child natural curiosity is satisfied as he/she matures.there are a number of excellent books to help.(Parents often have trouble finding the right words).

It takes cofidence to be a kid.Wether going to a shop or doing something for the first time.feel sorry for them,kids face a lot of uncharted territory.

Supervision is important to ensure that children are safe.

Throughout childhood,parents have chances to prepare kids to take care of themselves .Sure my friend, it’s great to feel needed,but as children steadily gain confidence and independence,their relationship with you can  be even richer.You can be bonded ,by love and  shared pride in all they’ve achieved.(have I done your head in)He!He!He!

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Now have a laugh–remember reading it somwhere
A  solid friendship had grown between two minister of different churches,both of which require baptism by immersion.One day one of them said,"It looks  as if I am going to manage to convert you to my faith".

The other minister shook his hesd:"No,but if it doesn’t rain soon the Methodists may convert both of us  .

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My friends stay well.

Love to you and yours