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October 2, 2006

Sudden Urge.

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For every minute you are angry.my friends you lose sixty seconds of happiness. "Anger is one letter short of danger"He!He!He!.

What determines how angry we get?Is it really our  neighour or is it our inner self that is not quite satisfied with us?.

Deterioration of mental retention is only a part of it.Your eyes misread a sudden urge of violence……not being able to hold it together.PHEW!! A mutiny is on…the crew no longer obeys the captain.It’s sheer anarchy.

Which group you belong to;1 or 2 .let me know .He!He!He! :)   .

1. When people become angry they can experience many different thoughts,feelings,and physical reactions. Some people experience strong feeling of resentment or hostility,raise their voice,curse,or throw things.

2. Other people  experience physical symptoms such as headaches,nausea,and increases in heart rate and blood pressure.For some,angry feelings become so overwhelming they feel ready to explode..Others may not know they are angry about a situation but will feel  physiclly ill.gulty,or will overreact to other situations.

Aggression is defined as "the first act of hostilty or injury"But why do people become aggressive?It is the thirst for power,authority,money,simply the desire to intimmidate others? 

The root of aggression lies in the spirit of the suppressed when intimidated for long,when stripped of basic rights,when denied liberty,when made to feel unheard.

Now for those who have children: Social learning theory:i.e.Aggression is largely learned. through direct contact A child as young as six years of age  will soak up what mum and dad are up to.

Cognitive factors play a crucial role in determinning how you react.One cognitive factor that will influence your behaviour is your interpretation of the situation…….. i.e Imagine being stuck in a traffic jam on a hot day.A car suddenly rams into the bumper of your car.How you react?Certainly with a surprise and feeling of agitation.But do you retaliate in kind;reversing your car and bumping into the car?or do you swallow your annoyance and proceed?Obviously, this depends on numerous factors;how big the dent on your car was etc………..your appraisal of why the car bumped into your car.Did he do it on purpose?Was it totally an accident?Finally it’s important to consider your current mood.Aversive experiences produce negative effects.

Aggression is often a direct result of physical or verbal provocation from other.

Sometimes when I a’m angry I have the right to be angry,but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel,and remember my friends we don’t have to attend every argument we are invited to.If you are angry with your loved  ones ((((((hug)))))) Them,

 Wish you a nice week :)   .

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  1. I have this bad attitude of keeping mum when i’m angry, the battle goes inside my heart. Sometimes I wonder whether this can make me hysteria or insane one day. But I do explode too.. and regret later!

    Comment by hliza — October 2, 2006 @ 4:26 am

  2. i don’t like the way i physically feel when i am angry. i don’t like my stomach feeling that ugly and my heart feels dirty. my mind gets all worked up and peace is so far away. i don’t like to feel angry. i try to live peacefully yet it doesn’t always work and then i need to react or defend myself. but yes, we must still have respect for we all are God’s sons and daughters. hugs my sweet friend.

    Comment by Chana — October 2, 2006 @ 10:01 am

  3. *hug*

    Comment by Cherie! — October 2, 2006 @ 7:08 pm

  4. I am so a mixture of 1 & 2! I am down right ugly when provoked. And I do my best to not be! Some very powerful reading here! I have peeked at you blog alot but today thought I would say hello! Your writing says alot about things that others tend to ignore. I like what I read here!

    I hope you are having a nice week also!

    Comment by Debbie (Fruitful Spirit) — October 2, 2006 @ 9:06 pm

  5. it is a human nature to get angry…i try to count to take a deep breath when i feel that i am going to be angry, but it does not work all the time. sometimes i explode with anger but i am always in control not to let it get over me..swearing always comes in handy though!

    Comment by Summer — October 3, 2006 @ 10:20 am

  6. yeah..ur right when ur angry or every minute ur angry u lose sixty seconds of happiness.

    so true..

    when im angry..sometimes i just sit and shut my mouth..sometimes i tend to say all these stuff that i shouldnt be saying…thats why i dont like being angry…

    tc!

    Comment by Lexy — October 3, 2006 @ 10:23 am

  7. hmmm,i get angry,too..but i dont let anger spoil my day and neither stuck them in my mind.

    ill stay as jolly as i am. :)

    Comment by ghee — October 3, 2006 @ 3:52 pm

  8. hliza :) Thanks Its nice to talk,sometimes it ‘ll help to talk.

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:31 am

  9. Chana :) Thanks I agree my friend

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:32 am

  10. Hi frnd, like Debbie I’m also a mixture 1 and 2, true geminine you know. So i can react in both ways. I like your saying that “we have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give us any right to be cruel”. I hope people understand this. Hopee you are having nice week.Take care.

    Comment by Raj — October 4, 2006 @ 9:33 am

  11. Cherie :) Thanks

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:33 am

  12. Debbie :) Thanks! I am glad you like it

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:35 am

  13. Summer :) Thanks.(swearing ) He!He!He!

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:37 am

  14. Lexy :) Thanks Talking is good

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:38 am

  15. anger means that there is a problem with us , not the unjust that others do to us . we feel what others do is wrong . if the person does thing on purpose and we get provoked then his aim is achieved and if it was not done intentionally then why unnecessarily make thing happen . we are born with anger and the best way to control it is meditation .

    Comment by paddy — October 4, 2006 @ 9:38 am

  16. ghee :) Thanks

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:38 am

  17. paddy :) Thanks! yes some kind of outlet always helps even fishing,meditation,etc He!He!He! I Agree my friend

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:41 am

  18. Raj :) Thanks ,Yes my friend so far the week is going beautifully

    Comment by Administrator — October 4, 2006 @ 9:43 am

  19. A lot of our anger grows because we feed it. we go over and over the event in our mind. We tell our friends and they reinforce it. We need to let go or the anger will grow until it spills out .

    Comment by drjohn — October 4, 2006 @ 10:33 pm

  20. thought-provoking stuff! i like it :)
    thanks for visiting my blog so i could discover yours.

    hehe i guess i’m a combination of 1 and 2 as well. i tend to raise my voice when angry but never with the intention to hurt anyone. and i try to get over it as soon as possible

    Comment by polona — October 4, 2006 @ 10:37 pm

  21. the root cause of destruction… mite be the mental fabric damage or sum tangible loss.. anger really never yields to anything ripe. people sumtimes play on this line n craftily instigate the fumes out…
    we lose a lot, i have lost a lot with the rages but had gone back to let ‘em know how imporatant they are to me… sumtimes though it was late..

    Comment by saptarshi — October 5, 2006 @ 9:02 am

  22. Its our Canadian Thanksgiving eh!
    Happy Canadian Thanksgiving!
    “just say no to giblets”

    *gobblegobble*

    Comment by Susan Jones — October 6, 2006 @ 2:26 pm

  23. one can be angry but must not sin. Leave rage (anger) to avoid getting evil.
    When someone likes to have a go at me, i just listen, bec usually the angry person needs to vent. After he finished, I go away.
    That is to make the situation cool.
    And dignified.

    Comment by francesca — October 6, 2006 @ 5:24 pm

  24. Dr John :) Thanks

    Comment by Administrator — October 6, 2006 @ 8:47 pm

  25. Polona :) Thanks for rtn visit

    Comment by Administrator — October 6, 2006 @ 8:48 pm

  26. Saptarshi :) Thanks for sharing

    Comment by Administrator — October 6, 2006 @ 8:51 pm

  27. Susan Johns :) Thanks have a nice Thanks giving He!He!He!

    Comment by Administrator — October 6, 2006 @ 8:52 pm

  28. Francesca :) Thanks I Agree my friend

    Comment by Administrator — October 6, 2006 @ 8:54 pm

  29. ~Hugs~ I have a temper sometimes, nice post. :)

    Comment by Almira — October 6, 2006 @ 10:45 pm

  30. I feel as if I’m angry mostly while driving. I have to sit in traffic every day and I feel myself getting angrier and angrier.

    If I’m alone, sometimes I’ll yell and then I feel better!

    Comment by Bonnie — October 7, 2006 @ 4:27 pm

  31. anger happens when what we expect does not meet our demands

    humans are selfish beings

    ramadan mubarak! how are u?

    Comment by brotherhood — October 8, 2006 @ 2:22 am

  32. Hi!Happy weekend!!

    where are you recently,mah frend?
    take care!

    Comment by ghee — October 8, 2006 @ 3:36 am

  33. tough to control it sometimes!
    but thats the challenge hey…

    Comment by bilal — October 8, 2006 @ 4:14 am

  34. I think I am more of #2. And I agree that children learn from watching their mom and dad, so parents really have to be careful.

    Comment by niceheart — October 8, 2006 @ 5:09 am

  35. Wow this is interesting! Thanks!

    Comment by Tiesha — October 8, 2006 @ 1:44 pm

  36. I guess it depends on the degree of anger, to a point, I keep it within, because I know beyond that point I lose reason. Dr John sent me.

    Comment by Basil Dray — October 9, 2006 @ 12:01 pm

  37. Good advice.

    Here playing six degrees of dr john

    Comment by janvangogh — October 9, 2006 @ 1:08 pm

  38. It’s taken me years to learn, but I’ve gotten pretty good at letting go of anger when it hits. Most of the time it doesn’t affect the person you’re angry at, but it sure does affect you…and not in any good ways.
    Sprinting through on Dr. John’s marathon trail.

    Comment by Stacy — October 9, 2006 @ 2:45 pm

  39. I’m to huff, I’m to puff
    and if this house does not fall
    let you know, not to forget later
    on Dr john @ fortesslinna to call

    Comment by Quasar9 — October 9, 2006 @ 4:58 pm

  40. When it comes to trivail annoyances (like the car thing) I become verbally explosive for a short period, but it goes away fast and leaves very little damage behind.

    When I am angry about bigger issues, I tend to try to get away from the source and immerse myself in something totally different until my blood pressure returns to normal and I don’t feel like winning the fight at all costs.

    Dr. John sent me…

    Comment by Cuppojoe — October 9, 2006 @ 4:58 pm

  41. I can’t say that I’m either 1) or 2). It all depends who I am angry with and what it is, or how big an infraction it is. I guess you can just say I speak my mind when warranted.

    Great Post and very thought provoking.

    -Margie (sent via Dr. John)

    Comment by Margie — October 9, 2006 @ 7:33 pm

  42. WHen I get angry I might mutter a few cuss words…then Im over it. Being angry is useless and solves nothing….the older I get the less time I want to spend on things that dont really matter.

    Comment by Catch — October 9, 2006 @ 7:34 pm

  43. I’m a mixture, depending on the circumstances and surroundings. I don’t usually stay angry for very long and am always willing to do whatever I can to work the situation out. I’ve found a good remedy for making a bad day better- I just go and visit Dr. John and the great circle of friends I’ve found there. White rabbits, dragons and pumpking splattered, shotgun toting old ladies will brighten any day, too.

    Comment by Cindy — October 9, 2006 @ 11:42 pm

  44. For me anger is a flash and it’s gone. It is an emotion almost impossible to sustain. I rarely raise my voice in anger. Talk to me. Don’t yell at me.sent

    Dr. John Marathon runner …. movin’ on.

    Comment by Quilldancer — October 10, 2006 @ 3:01 am

  45. Good post on anger. I take awhile to get angry then when I do I get mad, vent a bit then forget. I am not one to hold grudges. Life is too short for grudges.

    Thanks for stopping by the blog yesterday, stop by again and visit often

    Have a wonderful week

    Comment by theoldfart — October 10, 2006 @ 6:31 pm

  46. wow, tons of anger posts.
    heeeeeee

    Comment by Susan Jones — October 10, 2006 @ 10:30 pm

  47. Almira Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:32 am

  48. Bonnie Thanks :) He!He!He!

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:34 am

  49. Brotherhood Thanks :) Hope you having a nice Ramadhan

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:35 am

  50. ghee! My friend I am well Thanks for asking:) .

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:37 am

  51. Bilal Thanks :) .I agree

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:37 am

  52. Niceheart Thanks :) Mum and Dad is the word He!He!He!

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:39 am

  53. Tiesha Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:39 am

  54. Basil Dray :) Thanks

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:41 am

  55. Janvangogh :) Thanks

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:42 am

  56. Stacy Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:43 am

  57. Quasar9 Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:44 am

  58. Cuppojoe Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:45 am

  59. Cindy :) Thanks Dr john is a good place to un wind He!He!He!

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:47 am

  60. Margie Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:49 am

  61. Catch :) Thanks

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:50 am

  62. Quildancer Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:51 am

  63. Theoldfart Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:51 am

  64. Susan Jones Thanks :)

    Comment by Administrator — October 11, 2006 @ 12:52 am

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