Working Away

Serious, Glum,Morose.Irritable,Discontented.Yes look around us.The violance and  conflict all around us  makes us insecure and grim faced.There seems to be little cheer to go around,this has been  bothering me all day.

So I thought a bit of  humour  .The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious then any cough,sniffle,or sneeze.It can have a domino effect of joy and amusemant

Try this….He!He!He!

"I am free of all prejudice.I hate everone equally"

"If at first you don’t succeed,try again.Then quit There’s no use being a damn fool about it"

"Just looking for loopholes"(Fields,reading the bible on his deathbed)

"He had a photographic memory that was never developed" 

"A pessimist’s blood type is always b-negative"

and…..Have I improved the level of endorphins? Hmmm….He!He!He!

And the looks conscious can take  heart,Laughter can make you look younger for it tones up the muscles of your face and leads to an increase of blood supply which nourishes the facial skin and makes it glow. 

All of us  experience feeling of anxiety and depression as a reaction to the  stresses and strains of everyday life,(So laugh a little my friend)

Whatever the extent to which we are affected,there is a simple and practical way to improving our  emotional well-being.

When we are unhappy.our sadness is often sustained by repeated,intrusive thoughts.These push themsellves into conciousness and preoccupy or even dominate the mind,leaving little opportunity for experience of happier thoughts.

ie…..Low self-regard

These are thoughts that express an unjustified lack of self-confidence."I cannot do it". "I’m not as pretty as my friends."I am going to be a failure in life"."I dont deserve to live"

Excessive self-depreciation(That was my feeling today) .

 These are thoughts that criticise the self to an extent more then justified……"I should have been  more careful"."I shouldn’t have said that".I shouldn’t have done that".

Excessive self blame

These are thoughts that assume more then is justified ….."Ive been a bad mother".I’ve wasted my life"."It’s all my fault"

Scapegoating……"IF it hadn’t been for my family,I could have had a successful career"and so on etc,etc

Ideas of deprivation……."we are poor""my friends children have more"Why do I have such a rotten life?.(These thoughts are focused on liabilities rather then  assets.

All of us have repeated,intrusive thoughts that make us miserable.We need to identify such thoughts,realise their irrationality,and switch over to more positive topics.

Unrealistic assumption can make us unhappy,and we can wreck the peace and tranquillity in the family as well,I think it is important that we learn to accept ourself, imperfection and all.

And now…..The human race what have you got ? which is really effective so effective a weapon,that can unite us,and my friend that is LAUGHTER

Among those whom I like or admire,I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love,I can:all of them make me laugh,

Think of a funny joke.Any one will do.Smile.Let the corners of your mouth turn up.Giggle.Chortle,Chuckle.And slowly build up into a loud guffaw.How do you feel?Refreshed?Exhilarated.

Be positive,Think positive . 

What is love?The best and most beautiful things cannot be seen but only felt by the heart.Such is the essence of love.

Someone said to me once that love is magic. All living creatures understand  love.Love is magic,Its the language the deaf can hear,a song the crippled can dance to and a sunset the blind can see,But the big question still remains.Is love an illusion?Is love for real or Is it a rare passion?What is love then?

Love in my opinion is a postive and a very strong force……if only it were empowered.Love is not just a mere attraction  between two people of opposite genders,it’s.in fact,an endless sea which may  engulf the  whole world and defend it against all the darkness and remove the veil of evil that has  entrenched the world today,but  only if love  were understood in its true sense and valued for its worth.

From my point,

They are  so many things not right here

1.Why does love marriages end up  in failure.(did they not love each other)

 2. people who claim to be in love,(just to gain something  like material wealth or for personal gain( I call this manipulated love which is again nothing but a delusion.)

If love truly did exist in the  real world and not only in the movies or books then why does the real world display this appalling truth?

This is why  it seemed to me that love may well be an illusion .After all no other meaning of love seems to be existent today but that  it is a physical attraction between two people of the opposite sex.

Then why have we decided to hide the truth and live on an illusion when  the realty just needs to be brought to the surface.

To me love is a bond of trust,a bond of faith,bond of care and deep understanding,which can be shared by people no matter where they stand.Love doesn’t always have to culminate into a relationship.

People can be friends and yet share a bond of trust and understanding,provided that they know their limits.Love should not be thought of  in only one context because love is strong enough to hold  together the entire  creation,(be humen or what ever else be there we should share this space with love and care .There is always  enough to go around,But at present it is  a rare passion.It needs to be empowered,and my friend  to do so we must first understand it,then believe in it,help others to believe in its power and soon it may spread like epidemic.An epidemic of truth,peace and happness.

Have faith in the power of true love. Because love is strong yet delicate.It can be broken.To truly love is to understand this.To be in love is to respect this(Stephen Packer)

 This is for those who lost  there lives ,loved ones  and homes around the world.I wish you well

I Was thinking about a day I was driving home from work at 4 a.m.I had a nice shift.And it was hot.Then I saw a girl of about my age moving her hands signalling that she needed a lift .I stopped the car and offered her a lift,  she told me her car  had  a problem and she will send someone to rapair it she sat down,we drove of.

We talked  she was jolly ,someone nice,we struck a friendship.We got on well.Soon we arrived at her address,she thanked me  in a very kind voice.before going she asked  my address and said, she will meet me  behind the house.(we had a garden at the back with lots of tree,Africa for you)at 7.30 pm.

To my surprised,she was there at  7.30 pm next day we chit chated  ,and she told me her name was Maskal.

Maskal soon become a frequent vistor,and we meet at the same place and the same time.I would ask her to come inside and meet my family but she would decline the offer and said she was happy there and didn’t like to come inside the house.so I didn’t push.she visited for about 30 to 40 days.

We got on well,we shared a lot things,talked about almost anything.

One evening I showed her my  sister’s shoe,she tried them on,we talked and  we were engrossed in talking,that she forgot to return them,this would be wrong,because I showed the shoe without my sisiter’s permission,I knew her address so I started driving to her place.

When I got there, there was  no one but  watchman.I asked about Maskal,The watchman’s reply,I am sorry  ,nobody has lived  here, since the past 12 years.And Maskal  you are talking about died 12 years ago.

I was flabbergasted I tried to convince him that she just met me,and I give her A lift here,he would not have any of it.nobody has lived here in the past 12 years.And looked at me funny as if I have lost it all.

I was disappointed,As I was walking  towards my car she was standing there and smiled at me and disappeared in a friction  of seconds,I couldn’t believe my own eyes and was shocked to the core,when I saw the shoe were she was standing.

That was when I realized that the person that I thought was my best friend  had been dead for 12 years.I was shaking at this point,picked up the shoes and drove home,when I walked in our house holding them shoes, and every body asked me ,What I was doing with the  shoes? or what happened . why do I look so  worried I said,  "nothing"  but I know the real story myself.(things I have seen ) As I am writing this I am shaking all over.It came as a shock that day, the day I finished my shift, and only wanted to go home and sleep.

now you tell me! 

sleeeeeep Hmmmmmm 

This was told to me by an  African woman,

She was sitting under a tree all by herself ,the day was hot ,for shade we shared the same tree, I have so much to say, but where do I start.and no one to hear me ,I siad to her tell me,she siad what I say is true and please understand that these tears are no fake,

look at me and take this example with you,,I feel lonely so lonely today,severed from the rest of the world  ( ME!!I know I  should have kept my mouth shut "Duh" ).There are times when a person can have many friends around him,yet feel alone, so alone ,she siad take me today

I feel so lonely today,and you want to know why?

me. yes

she said  she feel lonlely today severed from the rest of the world  ,having no  one around to understand the pain that I feel.There is NO one to give me hope and hugs,to make me belive in myself.or tell me things will get better.no one to help me let me out  of the nightmare, my life has turned into a world of  where I have to fake a smile,and belive all is well, All of my friends are gone ,gone for ever,and because of a  misunderstanding that no one could fix.

Me…(wondering why things like this happen).

She siad Why did I always ended up hurting people who I cared for  very  deeply and who cared for me.these people I have hurt I cared for deeply and never wanted them to feel bad .sitting here  and having these thoughts are  excruciating and I dont know, how to fix things anymore.I can’t undrestand who was to blame and why things ended as they did,I no longer know what to expect.My sons,best friends are all gone.I lost everything that was dear to me.And I think it was my fault.All those mistake I made,I wonder how I could  have done it,without realising what the consequences would be.

I hear voices in my head telling me,You deserve what you got!,This keeps ringing in my head and have wondered,do I really deserve this ???

Do I deserve to feel the unbearable pain of loneliness,with no one around to care for me?(and she said)I always come to the same conclusion yes.I do deserve it My actions had consequences and now that I realise the consequences I know that hurting those who I loved and they loved me was very very very wrong.

I pray and hope they  will realise that they weren’t the only ones who  suffered,(she said) I too feel the pain  and suffering every day and can hardly seem to stop crying and my sorrow is not fake,Howevar,there is no way to let them know,these words can’t describe how  truly sorry I am.

She said. Sometimes I wish I could turn back the clock and go back in time and make things better make everything all right.I wish I could erase the part where I hurt the people I care  about.One of my biggest regrets is that I made them cry.It showed how much I had actually hurt them and it is something that she had to live with everyday.

Sitting under this tree today sad and realising that i will never be able to forgive myself I am constantly thinking about the good times we had,and feeling sorry that she threw it all away.She siad her dearest hope was that she found some answers to all her problems

This was whizzing around my head today that cup of tea I had under a tree with the tea server so thought I would share.

that tea was all I wanted but her stories got me thinking about people. 

I wonder  about her, And all the best to her,   

Love someone and someone will love you back

……Somethings you probably never knew or thought about your self……..

1.At least 10 people in this world love you in some way.

2.AT least 2 people in this world love you to bits(so much)that they would die for you.

3.Every night,SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

4.You mean the world to someone.

5. If not for you someone may not be living.

6.You are special and unique

7.Someone that you don’t  even know exits loves you.

8.The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want  to be like you.

9.When you think the world has turned its back on you,take a good look,you most likely turned your back on the world.

10.when you make the biggest mistake ever,somthing good comes from it.

11.Always  remember the compliments you received,Forgate about the rude remarks.

12.Always remember my friend to tell someone how you feel about them,you feel better when they know.

13. If you have a good friend take the time to let them know that they are great.

14.When you think you have no chance of getting what you want,you probably won’t get it .but if you believe in yourself,probably,sooner or later,you will get it.

So be positive have positive views.Always remember that guilt doesn’t make you feel better and it doesn’t change anything.So,learn to leave it behind .

Dont wast your time and energy my friend in competing with others,strive to excell in your own way .

Hmmmm……. "If you think you can do it,you are right and if you think you can’t do it you are also right,

You must also give some time to your fellow men.Evan if it’s a little thing,do something for others,something for which  you get no pay but the privilege of doing it…….Albert Schweitzer…….

I ask my self tonight "Did you do something special for someone lately" 

 And I wonder who is thinking of me out there right now. Hmmmmm .

I have had my walk,.A cuppa and looking out of the window sky getting darker.Only the clicking of the keyboard.I look out at the dark sky and think ,"all the people  and  the computers "(there is  a vast web of computers  on the sky,Yes! me too,mine is up there as well.

Yes! I feel this immense freedom and ability to choose and reach out  to any one of them. boy I am lucky ,Yes my friends I am blogging,"I am ONLINE!!"
This phrase is music to many ears(including mine). I am alive.Hmmmm this is better then I am ONLINE something like that,Yes I am talking about World Wide Web.

The best aspect of the WWW is that it has something for everyone .Information- hungry soul feel like they died and gone to heaven.

In the fast moving world of today,days of writting and mailing letters to a  friend,relatives,etc, is numbered.Email is faster(if not the fastest),more reliable and easiest way to exchange letters,pictures,documents….etc..All you need is Email address, at any one of those web based email sites,

 What I like about it is the chance to say what I want say,the world is not such a bad place after all,Its beautiful.I feel I can reach out and almost touch you,I have seen too much in my life (  still getting flash backs,)but through the net I have and will hopefully meet good people.

Here I can let my thoughts and feelings flow freely(I AM BLOGGING!!!) He!He!He! .The word "keep mum" or "shut up" dosn’t apply here(just  kidding).  Know try this:-

Yes try it and let me know what you score.Think your IT knowledge is really up to it Hmmmmm

1.Hybrid and digital are types of

a. super computers

b. micro computers

c.data computers 

and try this I liked it

Chocolate pudding

ingredients

1 tin condensed milk

11/2 cup milk

2 tbsp walnuts

 1 tbsp coco powder

3 oz butter

4 oz cream

crudely crushed butterpuff biscuits

Method,  mix condensed milk,coco powder,butter and milk.boil till the mixture becomes thick.Cool  and add lightly crushed biscuits and walnuts. leave some for decoration.Pour the mixture in  a dish and decorate with cream and remaing biscuite and walnut.

A treat for comming to my new blog.He!He!He!