Yup! still around He!He!He! and trying hard I was sitting  with my friend once and he said some thing like this ……….
I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of river nile, He filled the palm of his hand with some water and held it before me, and said this:
"You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the
first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love…they try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Give and don’t expect.
Advise, but don’t order.
Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an
unconditional caring."

Passing thought… Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;
but by the moments that take our breath away….. .

Life is beautiful!!! Live it !!!

Have a nice day  

Yep! He!He!He! still around . This was doing my head in .

He who forgives, ends the quarrel’…anonymous. Your best friend has just done something so bad to you that it could be classified as the eighth wonder of the world. It’s so incredulous you can hardly believe it! You are feeling really mad, seething with anger, frustrated… Add on feelings of hurt and being let down and here is an article on forgiveness staring in your face. “After what that person did to me I’m supposed to forgive and let them off the hook?” you say to yourself. “No way. It’s not fair,” another voice screams in your head.

slow down He!He!He!    and read on. We may be shedding some new light on the subject of forgiveness.

The need for forgiveness arises when someone has done some wrong to us — in actual or perhaps something in our imagination. And mind you! That someone could even be ourselves. In fact, let’s begin with self-forgiveness — something we could all do with! But before we do that, let’s see why we need to forgive anyways?

Why forgive?

There are health aspects of forgiveness. People who can forgive easily tend to be happier. Not forgiving someone ensures we are locked in a cycle of hate and anger that keeps us low and ultimately results in health issues.

Self-forgiveness

It is said that the way we speak to ourselves is something we would never allow anyone else to speak to us like. Here is what I mean — how often do you have thoughts like ‘how stupid of you’, ‘how could you have done something like this’, this was such a simple task, how could you goof up on it’, blah blah blah…We are generally much more compassionate towards others. So, take it as a challenge to catch yourself scolding yourself mercilessly the next time you make a mistake. As you grow more tolerant towards yourself, you will be much kinder and tolerant towards others.
I should love and trust the other person again

Who said you had to — there is no rule in any forgiveness book that you need to. Forgiveness is not about forcing yourself to do anything. In fact, forcing yourself to love the other person or even like them is likely to make you dislike them even more. Sometimes it is not possible or even necessary to reconcile. Pope John Paul forgave his assassin but he is still in prison so that he can do no additional harm.

The other person should apologise

Really! You could be waiting forever if that is your aim. How often do other people muster up the guts or decency. That is giving your power away. Remember what we said earlier, forgiveness is about you.

Forgiving means I’m OK with the behaviour

No way! Who said that? When something is wrong, it’s wrong. But it’s the behaviour that is wrong. If you find a way to separate the behaviour from the person, you will find yourself feeling a whole lot better.

Only weak people forgive or apologise

This is so not right! Just think about times in your own life when somebody has genuinely taken the first step to end a quarrel. Have you thought they were weak for doing that? Instead you are probably so very glad that the air has been cleared and the energy drain has stopped. It takes courage and guts to take the responsibility for a mistake, apologise, or just take the first step in making things right. Look at what a professor of psychology at Hope College says: “Forgiving doesn’t mean ignoring an injustice or letting someone treat you badly. Remember that it’s not a wimp’s response. It takes a strong, courageous effort to make that move. Letting go of your grudges takes a great deal of moral muscle.” — (Charlotte vanOyen Wilvliet, quoted in Zest Magazine, (UK) October 2000.)
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was YOU.

I must/should/have to forget what the other person did

Forgiveness is a quality of the heart and hence cannot be forced. This is not about denying what you are feeling, or putting up a robotic front, because we all know anyways that this does not work. It is really about coming to terms with what has happened and finding the peace and strength to move on.

Forgiveness does not equal forgetting. It is about healing the memory of the harm, not erasing it.” — Dr Ken Hart.

How to go about it

• Write a letter to the person — write an actual letter. Begin it with Dear and sign it at the end. Date it. All this is recommended so that your mind accepts this as a serious exercise. Write your grievances out and how this is affecting you. Say you are wiling to forgive. In the end you do not need to send it.

Now begin anew to live your life without the burden of unforgiving pain — it is unnecessary suffering

Prayer — For chronic cases, use prayer because God can do what you can not do. So if you are feeling really stuck, turn it over to God.

The ways are many — you have to choose and see which one works for you. How will you know if you have succeeded? It will simply be a feeling of peace, a feeling of letting go that is really hard to describe. For intense issues, it will take some time for the wound to heal. The acid test will be when you will be able to think of that other person and not have any thoughts of revenge or of harming them. This is for your own peace of mind. Do whatever you can and whatever works for you to gain this invaluable treasure.

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you

 now have was once among the things you only hoped for.

Treat people in such a way and live amongst them in such a manner that if you die they weep over you, and when you are alive, they crave for your company"
Hope you guys have a nice day .

Still around  and kicking He!He!He!,missed me guys? ..

The Four Candles burned slowly.
Their ambiance was so soft you could hear them speak…

The first candle said, "I Am Peace, but these days, nobody wants to keep me lit."

Then Peace’s flame slowly diminished and went out completely.

The second candle said, "I Am Faith, but these days, I am no longer indispensable."

Then Faith’s flame slowly diminished and went out completely.

Sadly the third candle spoke, "I Am Love and I haven’t the strength to stay lit any longer."

"People put me aside and don’t understand my importance.

They even forget to love those who are nearest to them."

And waiting no longer, Love went out completely.

Suddenly…

A child entered the room and saw the three candles no longer burning.

The child began to cry, "Why are you not burning? You are supposed to stay lit until the end."

Then the Fourth Candle spoke gently to the little boy, "Don’t be afraid, for I Am Hope, and while I still burn, we can re-light the other candles."

With shining eyes, the child took the Candle of Hope and lit the other three candles.

Never let the Flame of Hope go out.

With Hope in your life, no matter how bad things may be,
Peace, Faith and Love may shine brightly once again.

So my friend take good care  of yourself He!He!He! 

 I have to start  somewhere…………

Start to face the truth and take note that every moment is an opportunity to create a new reality.

If you are looking for enlightenment, you may ask yourself where do I begin There is only one place you can start your journey of enlightenment, and that is your life’s journey.

A place you could start is where you are right now. Let’s start with the knowledge that you already know the answers you are seeking, you are simply pretending that you do not know or that you have forgotten. First you must start to understand the apparent paradox that you are alone on your journey, and yet you are at one with everything and everyone else in the universe. You need to acknowledge that you are a divine being, a part of all that is.

Know that all that has gone in your life before this moment has brought you to where you are right now, that there is a purpose for everything that happens. Rejoice in every obstacle you are faced with in your lifetime, and that it is both a gift and an opportunity. This has certainly enabled you to grow.

Remember that the only thing that stands between you and fulfillment of your heart’s desires is your own fears. Start to face the truth and take note that every moment is an opportunity to create a new reality, NOW, and in every moment of your life. Base this on the unlimited possibilities of what can be, not on your fears of what has happened in your past.

Start to understand that your successes and your happiness is limited, only by what you believe is possible. The range of possibilities are only restricted by limited human understanding. Trust the universe, it will show you the answers when you are open to receive them.

Now perhaps some of these ideas are new to you, perhaps you want to reject them as nonsense or as impossible, that is your right. You don’t have to accept anything in life or what I say. You have your own free will to reject or accept that there might be something in these ideas, even if it is not clear, right now, what or how or why.

As you continue your journey of enlightenment and self-discovery you may find some things that made no sense at the time, might then begin to seem possible and perhaps even probable. What is important is that you apply yourself with an open mind and an open heart. Rejecting everything that is out of your hands just because it does not make sense will not lead to spiritual understanding.

Everyone’s path is different, so do not assume that what works for someone else will necessarily work for you, or vice versa.
love and love some more……………………….
You need to find for yourself those things that work for you and those that do not. You will also find the speed of your journey and the timing of events in everyone’s lives will vary. It’s important not to give yourself a hard time just because events are not happening as quickly as you would like or that your experiences are different from someone else’s.

Spiritual awakening is about understanding your higher consciousness. It means letting go of old beliefs and fears, releasing old ways of being, and doing and thinking in ways in which you feel comfortable. It means accepting responsibility for your life and accepting the power you have. This means not placing your power over others but using that power on yourself.

The mind can be a barrier to spiritual enlightenment. You should experience your life, not contemplate it. You need to look deep within yourself to find those things that are keeping you in the past. You will need to face up to your fears before you can let go and move on.

It will certainly get uncomfortable at times but remember there is no growth without risk and enlightenment can not work without growth, love, trust, understanding and compassion. You are perfect just the way you are although if you wish to grow in love and light you need to be prepared to place yourself into situations that will take you to the limits and you may feel uncomfortable.

The fact is that they are only uncomfortable to you, no one else. There may be times when you need to face up to some unpleasant truths. You have nothing to gain by trying to deceive yourself or others. When you take the easy options it will not lead to growth and enlightenment. So are you ready to take the risk and to take yourself on There are no teachers; you are your own teacher. Just as you would learn from a teacher you learn from yourself. The two go hand in hand, just as the only way you can receive is for you to give, the only way to be loved is to give love back, and the only way to be forgiven is for you to forgive.

The most important thing to remember is to love, respect, and honour and forgive ourselves as well as others. This is a journey so enjoy the travelling and don’t forget to smell the roses on the way……….:)

Love is the one treasure that multiplies by division. It is the one gift that grows bigger the more you take from it. It is the one business in which it pays to be an absolute spendthrift. You can give it away, throw it away, empty your pockets, shake the basket, turn the glass upside down, and tomorrow you will have more than ever.
 Human beings are nothing if not emotional animals. The study of emotion goes back to ancient times yet there’s still plenty that’s unknown

In today’s world of advanced psychical analysis, the age old virtues of expressing one’s emotions are constantly rubbed in our faces, backed by the many updated researches and reports that state the alarming rate at which psychoneurosis (mental disorder associated with indirect expression of emotions) is sky rocketing. Free manifestation of emotions, we are told gives way to sound mental health while simultaneously bridging relationships, yet we often come across people complaining of not being loved or cared for by their spouse, parents, children, etc.
Just a couple of decades back, when they still made tolerant and balanced human beings, more-so confined by the not-so advanced technology, proclamation of feelings was at its best.
As a child, I still remember the day my mother received a letter from a long lost friend. How she clung to it and cried. She still holds the now yellowing parchment. Recalling the joy in her eyes, I now realize that they had no ecards or virtual hugs to send, yes, but they had lots of time to take out to write a much awaited letter and lots of thought to put in to create a hand made card.
An honest attitude and an honest approach to ourselves frees us to discover the truth about ourselves to the extent we are capable at the time. Knowing the truth about how and what we feel and why allows us to know ourselves, and knowing ourselves is what will free us to be true to and intimate with ourselves. It is this integrity, this honesty and this intimacy that frees us to journey through life known to, not alienated from ourselves. Then when we attempt to communicate with others, we are able to begin with an honest claiming of what is going on for us. Any interaction with others that is based on such an honest expression of what we are experiencing has the potential for intimacy and a respectful exchange with another.

Starting at a very young age, children feel all types of emotions. They knowdiscover the truth about ourselves. Emotions tell us how we feel about different situations. They push us into action and give us the energy to stop negative experiences and gain more positive experiences. Even though children feel these emotions, they don’t always understand them. And they may not know what to do with them when they feel them.

Here is a story I read once………..An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, “What is this?”

The Son replied “It is a crow”.

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What is this?”

The Son said “Father, I have just now told you “It’s a crow”.

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,

What is this?”

At this time some ex-pression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”.

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